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- Does Size Really Matter?
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Click hereCock size figures too prominently in many of the stories here on Literotica. It is for me a good cue that the story will be less than stellar.
Women are naturally a bit fascinated about size, and there are some size queens out there to be sure. I recall a friend in college asking me who had the largest cock on my team. We used a large open shower room where there was no privacy. Sure enough, once I informed her (based on flaccid size), she dated him for a while and confirmed that she was satisfied (even she did not talk about inches). A few women at dating sites or on Craigslist do request only those that are well-hung. Guys too, myself included, like to watch the studs take it to the starlets in porn videos. It is clear however, that camera angles, shaved equipment, and tiny women give the impression of greater size. Look carefully at a Wifey oral video. Note how he looks longer (as does her face) when he shoots down at her, rather than when the scene is shot from the side. I have never seen a porn movie where they actually used a ruler.
Does Penis size matter in an evolutionary sense? Human penises are not small, and it would appear that there has been some selective pressure at some point in human evolution for the present range of sizes. Size is to my knowledge not an issue in terms of fertility. Also, penis size appears to be genetic rather than an indication of health or robustness. Flaccid size might be a mechanism to increase surface area to get rid of excess heat, and shrinkage as George on Seinfeld noted is a result of exposure to cold. So it might seem that there is little evolutionary pressure for penis size to increase from a sexual standpoint, but many secondary sexual characteristics (think male bird plumage) have no purpose beyond impressing the females and intimidating other males. This may be the only benefit to large cock size.
Ultimately, we can only talk with authority about ourselves and those we trust on these matters. Based on charts I have seen I fall smack in the middle (50th percentile) in length and though the data are not as robust at about the 80th percentile in diameter. This puts me, like many others on the insecure side after watching porn. On the other hand, all women that I have been with over the years have been more than happy with my average equipment. In one case she said that how merry it is was more important than size.
Is there a physiological basis for large size being better for women? The most sensitive spot in most women, the clitoris, is on the outside-- cock size is not that relevant. Some, but not all women, like cervical tapping (but not ramming), which occurs, depending on position, with most partners I have had. Other than that, most sensation is at the front of the vagina or over the G-spot. The G-spot is easily reached by fingers and so should be accessible to most penises.
In addition, I know of at least three instances where women who had experienced size, were in fact happier with more average guys, saying that it was often painful with the big ones. In one case, a friend (not a lover) was describing her deceased husband (who she loved dearly and had no reason to lie about), and apparently was about as big around as a soda can. She appreciated more that he loved to go down on her, rather than his size which she said almost always caused her to ache afterwards if not during.
On a related note: if size were so important, than most women would not be satisfied by what they had. In most long term relationships that I am aware of (including mine), it is the guys who want more sex. Yes, women can and do enjoy multiple orgasms, but it is exhausting and they often prefer to be teased to one big one rather than multiples. Yes, on vacation, they might appreciate that a guy that can do it often, but the rest of year seem more than content with 3-4 times per week. In other words, even if large cocks provided more stimulation, such an increase would not necessarily be appreciated by most women.
In summary, size does not matter a whole lot and focusing writing on this is unrealistic and often reflects on the maturity or insecurity of the author.
- COMMENTS
tomee84boyover 3 years agoMost people accept their lot in life, especially the older they get.
However, most would prefer a big spacious house over a small cramped unit.
A large luxurious car over a small hatchback.
A week in Hawaii over a day at the local swimming pool.
If it were purely a physical thing without any restrictions, what woman would honestly choose a small timid penis over a big virile cock!
AND if it didn't matter, we (all males) would have a uniformed size.
Prolonged_Debut10over 11 years agoI attempted to reply to your comment by other means unsuccessfully, so I had to come at you this way. As far as I know, no one that write for this site is a published author, and does not do extensive research on any subject. Most of the "Lady Body-Guards" you alluded to are not muscle-bound weight lifters but all around athletes. As far as I can tell, you have only read the one chapter, read more and you may come around to a different opinion on their body types. As far as how fast they can run and the weight factor, as with Dick size, "So What!"
Prolonged_Debut10over 11 years agoYou have enlighten no one with nothing particular in mind. Chinese Emperors had dildos made of their penis' and most averaged 31/2 inches long and 11/2 inches wide. They still ruled the China regardless of the size of their genitals and had between 25 and 50 wives, plus 100 or more concubines. Size has always been the perview of the male ego, and women could care less. Most would rather have a talented tongue at work than a coke bottle being shoved up their vagina searching for gold.
donkinkalmost 14 years agowatch 'California Blondes' (1986) , in the first scene there WAS really a ruler involved! lol
michassalmost 14 years agoAuthorOf course all of the women responders are correct in that they know what they like--I cannot speak for all of them--thank goodness for variety in this world. Note that the best reviewed woman authors on this site rarely mention inches or cm.
Men in general desire sex more often because that is the way we are wired. A recent New Yorker cartoon captures this perfectly. A man holds out flowers when meeting a woman. Their thought bubbles intersect like a Venn diagram. In hers alone there are thoughts of vacations, cuddling, marriage, children, dinners, shopping, etc. In the intersection there is sex, and the rest of his bubble is empty. As pointed out by many authors women want sex after romance. With men its the other way around.
trite_readeralmost 14 years agoWhen I fuck a woman, I want to feel the sides. Size queens are the most boring fucks in the world. Too much one way traffic. Give me a nice tight little pussy any day of the week. Do I care about my size? Fuck no. Why should I care about something I have absolutely no control over?
When I hear about sluts that are out looking for the next 'big thing' I laugh my head off!!! For women like that, the old saying applies... ' Q: How do you make a woman cum? - A: Who cares?' HAHAHA!!!!
Guy's, if you run across a woman who complains about your dick, just remember! It goes both ways! -Why is your cunt so loose??? Next please!
Further discussion is a waste of time!!!
innocentscribblesalmost 14 years agoPrior to meeting my husband, I experimented a bit like most people do. From my personal POV, the answer to the question is both "yes" and "no."
During those experimental years, there were two VERY, very well endowed fellas I remember. It was fun in a thrilling sort of way, but it hurt if they weren't careful, and neither one was very good at the deed. I assume they thought size was sufficient. It wasn't.
There was another gentleman that was so tiny, I almost laughed (and I'm not a mean person, dangit). Thinking it couldn't be THAT bad, things proceeded, and...there simply wasn't any magic. He was very enthusiastic and tried so hard but it didn't do the trick, at least not for me.
Big (with a capital “B”) is fun for the novelty and thrill but I wouldn't want to tackle that with regularity, while too small is just a flat “no.” Average is my personal preference; plenty to hit the right spots, but not so much that it detracts from the experience. Size does matter, but each woman's preference will probably differ. Still, there is NO substitute for skill and enthusiasm.
lovecraft68almost 14 years agoI think the average guy worries more than women do. One previous comment that the guy had to tell us his dimensions proves my point. I think if your a decent lover and provide foreplay size isn't a big deal. As for my own? I have never measured however I have never heard "Is it in yet?" nor have I ever heard "Keep that damn thing away from me!" So I consider myself okay. Aside from that as far as mentioning it in a story this is a PORNO SITE! Women want think all guys are hung like bulls just like we want to think all women are whores who can't get enough cum poured down their throats! Fantasy my friends! IN porn every mans a stud and every womans a slut! Especially in BDSM how seriously could we take a Master with a little wienie? Thanks for writing this I'm sure this debate will rage on!
quutooalmost 14 years agoI have seven and a half,6 inches around and most women have found it satisfactory. But when I suck of jerk off a cock or when I want to watch my wife get fucked I choose a large thick cock. The only men that say that size doesn't matter are the pitiful creatures with a three inch willy.
Pistolpackinpetealmost 14 years ago...You are a self -fulfilled prophecy!! Author is right, you are an obviously unsatisfied woman, but just one out of many, so speak only for yourself.. Did any of you geniuses ever think that maybe "EVERYONE" in this society is fucked up about sex because of the way we teach about it, and the way we overhype sex fantasies as actually possible????
