How to Receive Anal Sex Ch. 02

This is my follow up piece on how to receive anal sex. In this segment, I want to share more logistical ideas, tips, and experiences in receiving anal sex that can help the reader learn about potential unknown facts that I may not have shared in my first writing. As I try to think back on my sexual experiences, I have estimated to have had sex with probably 30-35 women, I have blown over 100 guys, and taken as many as 50-60 dicks in my ass. I have lots of experience and want to help you if you are thinking about allowing someone to put his cock in your ass. I may briefly touch upon something I covered in my first writing but I will not repeat myself in depth.

Why We Do It

Feeling pleasure from receiving anal sex is first mental and then physical. I will first talk about the mental aspect of receiving anal sex. I explained in my "How to give great blowjobs" writing that swallowing a man's cum is great for people who like to be dominated or humiliated because it allows you to feel used or allows your lover to mark his territory with his sperm. That submissive mentality is what excites people like me who feel that way. Taking a man's erect penis in your ass has the same erotic effect. Then if you go a step further and take another man's cum in your ass, not only do you feel the physical pleasure from the warm sticky texture but the mental fantasy from allowing a man to breed you or use you as an object that pleasures his cock and accepts his seed.

That mental stimulation of being dominated is why so many women do not enjoy anal sex. They cannot get past that "afraid it is going to hurt" mentality because they can already get "breeded" naturally or be dominated vaginally. If your mentality is "It's his birthday so I want to do something special for him no matter how much I don't want to do it," then you already will not enjoy it as the receiver. Men or women who love to be dominated or humiliated are those who enjoy anal sex and the more you are dominated, the better it is. This is why we love bigger cocks, black cocks, large men, being a "bitch," calling someone daddy, etc. Those references show you are completely submitting. Submissives think, "If I can take an 8 inch cock in my ass, then I will really be dominated if that cock is 12 inches and black." Mentally, this is why men like to get fucked in the ass.

Another mental aspect from receiving anal sex from a submissive's point of view is not only knowing your partner is using your ass for his pleasure but you have to ability to satisfy him. Just knowing you have that power is also an aphrodisiac. Your power also lies in the fact that not only you can accept his erect dick in your ass but you can do it well. That ability will keep him coming back for more. Nothing will be make him happier than if you can take all of his dick without hesitation. A well hung man usually cannot fit his entire penis in a vagina without pain, but he can put all of it inside a rectum. Your partner loves the power aspect of making you squirm a little or yell out when he pounds your hole but he will not like it if he can't fit all of himself in you or you keep pulling off of it because you cannot handle the pain. I have had 5 inch cocks in me as well as 12 inch. I allow him to put it all inside me and allow him to fuck his style until he has a strong finish. That is the key to being a good bottom.

If done properly, most of the time the person receiving anal sex, can be pleasured physically as well. I enjoy jacking off while getting screwed in the ass. I know how my body works and use the guy's cock to my advantage as a woman would do masturbating with a dildo. You just have to get lots of practice to get the right feel and get yourself off the way that gives you the most pleasure as your riding or getting pounded. It doesn't happen often, but I have shot my load from just being fucked without using my hands. I think the mood and his dick size has to be just right for that to happen. I think the perfect dick size for the receiver to gain pleasure is 8 to 9 inches in length and about 4-5 inches in girth with a slightly larger than average head. This size cock fits snug in you and the head messages your prostate just enough to give you that physical pleasure you need to get off. I have taken and enjoyed cocks of all sizes but to get your own pleasure, I feel those measurement criteria is what works best for me but it also depends on the size of the man receiving it.

Overall Preparation

Once you have overcome the mental obstacle of anal sex, it is time to proceed. If you are a male, you need to think a little bit like a women in the traditional sense. You are keeping your ass prepared for him to enter at a moment's notice. You need to keep your body's digestive system regular, your ass clean, well groomed, and tight. Keeping true to these factors will allow you to accept his cock no matter the time of day and on a regular basis. Men love when you are always ready.

Staying regular means keeping your digestive system in order. You need to eat small portions of protein and fiber which will keep your bowel movements regular. It is still a good idea to use enemas before you engage in anal sex but it is not always feasible if you engage spontaneously on occasion. Using enemas can also be used in foreplay by having your partner insert it and discharge its contents inside you. I do NOT get into the brown stuff so I like to clean up in private to get myself ready for cock.

If you're in a relationship where your man wants sex on a daily or every other daily basis, then there will be times where you cannot flush yourself out with an enema. During my junior year in college, I lived with a guy named Bob, and since he would only get to see his girlfriend every other weekend, he wanted to fuck, get a blowjob, or sometimes both, every day except the weekends she was visiting. I had my own room and there were many mornings he would wake up with that raging hard on or even come into my room in the middle of the night wanting to fuck my ass. I didn't always have time to use an enema, so he would lube up his rock hard, 9 inch, large headed dick and once he got it in me, he would pump away and usually it didn't take long before he unloaded his spunk up me.

Because I kept myself regular, most of the time, there were no issues but I always had a towel handy just in case. Never have anal sex without a towel. It can have many uses such as wiping the lubrication off your hands before you or your lover get started. The towel can be used for any santorum liquids expelled during anal sex. It can be used to wipe off your lover's cock in the middle of anal sex if you decided to suck it to finish him off (you really don't have time for that if he wants to pull out and cum in your mouth). Of course, the towel can be used to wipe the cum and lubrication out of your ass after you have finished. A towel has many functions and is always needed during anal sex.

Keeping clean also refers to your outer asshole as well. I have discussed in length about enema use in my first writing and in this one, so keeping a clean inner rectum has been covered. A clean outer section is also a must. It is a good idea to always have handy/baby wipes around. You can carry a few around in a zip lock bag for emergencies. If you meet someone at a club or pub and you end up in the back seat of his car getting your ass fucked, you don't want to be caught "dirty."

Keeping your ass well groomed means keeping it groomed according to your man's taste. To me, it means keeping my ass muscular, shaved, and having a good complexion. I work out by doing many stair steps and elliptical machine running to keep my ass in good shape. I like to keep my ass hairless. I shave or have it waxed on a regular basis. A good complexion on your ass is important so you do not have zits or blemishes. I use special moisturizing cleaners to keep my ass blemish free. In my experiences, if a guy sees you have a muscular, smooth ass, he will more likely want to plunge his fat cock in it. You have to be willing to put in some maintenance. Keeping your ass in shape will also allow you to heighten your sensitive pleasure nerves and allow you the stamina to accept dick for longer periods of time.

Keeping your ass tight not only refers to keeping your ass and legs in shape it also refers to your hole. There are some guys who enjoy having their ass dominated so much they are constantly pushing the envelope with larger things such as fisting and humongous dildos. A man's asshole is resilient and can recover from large cocks but eventually having gigantic objects shoved in there consistently will have ill effects, especially as you age. It is perfectly fine using dildos and butt plugs on yourself when you are in need of that anal sensation. Riding and bouncing on the occasional large, black, real feel, dildo while jacking off is fine and great but remember you want to keep your asshole warm and tight for your lover's hard dick and the way to do this is by using your ass sensibly.

If you keep your ass and legs in shape, it will provide you with benefits as well. For one, stronger legs will allow you to ride him longer. A guy loves when you are able to sit down on his hard dick, with your feet flat on the bed or floor, and bounce up and down in a smooth, consistent motion. It feels like you are milking his prick. Having your legs and ass in shape will also allow you to fuck him when he needs to rest his hips or is out of breath. There are times when he is on his knees behind you, and you can do the work by rocking back and forth. A guy loves when you are able to fuck him while he is resting.

Condom Use

If you are using a condom, then the type and size are your major concerns. I discussed in my first writing about the mishaps that can happen if you choose the wrong size. If your partner has good stamina and fucks for a length of time, then size becomes even more of a concern. You want that rubber to perform as well as the cock wearing it. Most cocks are average in size and a standard condom works just fine. Out of all the cocks that I have serviced, only about 20 percent needed large sizes. Out of those 20 percent, about half of them, we went bareback. I always try to have some Magnum XLs on hand.

Type of condom is personal preference. If you are allergic to latex, then you can use lamb skin. The dilemma is what should be the thickness of the rubber? The answer can be a catch 22. Thinner condoms allow your lover to feel your rectum warmth which will coax him into cumming quicker but those obviously aren't as durable. Assholes are much rougher on condoms than vaginas. Now if your lover uses a thicker condom, then the chances are it will last throughout your sex session but it takes away some of the feeling which in turn causes him to fuck longer. In some ways this can be good, especially if you're jerking off while your ass is getting reamed, but it also can cause sex friction in your asshole and that eventually becomes painful. This is why I dedicated a lot of time discussing the importance of lubrication in my last writing and I will touch upon that again later.

Novelty condoms are a matter of personal choice but actual benefits are minimal with the exception of the visual stimulation for one or both of you. For anal sex, you don't need ribbed condoms. As a recipient, you cannot feel the ribbed unless he is really thick but even then, I don't think it feels any better. You obviously do not need any spermicidal lubricant for anal sex and regular lubricated condoms do not supply near enough lubrication. The vagina offers natural lubrication and bareback offers a small amount of natural lubrication when he leaks precum but condoms will need outside lube to be effective. I will say, using colored condoms can be visually stimulating for some just because they are different.

I was with this guy for a few weeks who loved the glow in the dark condoms. Have you seen these? They really glow in the dark if exposed to light first. I would estimate his cock to be about 7 inches and I would put the condom on him and he loved to turn off all the lights until the room was pitch black. All I could see was that glowing orange, green or whatever color sticking out and looking like it was floating in air. His bed was in the middle of the room with a large mirror on the wall to the right side. I would look through that mirror and see this glow in the dark cock disappear in my ass and reappear as he pumped in and out. I have to admit that it was also a turn on for me and I would jack off all over his bed while he was fucking me. After he would cum, he would pull out and I could see the tip filled up with spunk through the condom which is also erotic.

Barebacking

As you know, this is the most common term used when there is anal sex without a condom. It feels much more natural. You both get to feel the warmth of each other. He will love the warmth of your rectum walls snug around his erection while you will get pleasure from feeling the heat coming off his dick inside your ass. This will allow him to get off quicker and it will make it more pleasurable for you to jerk off while he is pumping. At times it can be more pleasurable if your lover is uncircumcised because you can feel that thick foreskin moving as he slides his cock in and out. This is especially true if his dick is thick and has a constricted fit inside you.

Barebacking also allows you to take cock longer without as much friction. In these days of erectile drugs, men last much longer than in the past. The myth is thinking that only older men who have trouble getting hard take erectile dysfunction drugs. In fact, many young men take them to strengthen and maintain their hard-ons. I have been with many young men who took Viagra or Cialis before we fucked and they ended up grunting and thrusting for a long time. For young men to energize their cocks with enhancing drugs can also allow them to cum more than once. I can think of at least 3 different instances where the guy fucked me, blew his load in my ass, then kept going until he came again without getting soft. The cum also helps with the lubrication in which I described in part one.

Barebacking allows you to use varieties of lubrications. I discussed this in part one but with a condom, you are using that for safety so only use water soluble lubes but when you go bareback, you can get creative. When you get creative, don't go overboard and use them frequently but occasionally it feels great to use Vaseline, baby oil, cooking oil, or something without alcohol because alcohol based products will eventually burn.

Another benefit of barebacking is feeling the cock spurt inside you during ejaculation. The truth is you don't always feel the cum shooting out. Sometimes it depends on the cock size, depends on how numb your asshole has become from the friction and sometimes it is just the luck of the draw. When you actually feel that warm liquid hitting the inside of your rectum walls, it sends that extra sexual sensation through you.

Speaking of warm liquid, another variation in anal sex is called getting a "golden enema." This is when after your lover has ejaculated in your ass, he then empties his bladder by peeing in it. He may have to wait for a minute or two because it is not easy to urinate with an erection but not impossible. Golden enemas are more common after an ejaculation because most of the time, the erection starts to semi deflate which makes it easier to piss. The first time it happened to me, I didn't even know he was going to do it. It was a guy who woke up with a morning hard on after a night of drinking. He woke me up and started pumping away. I remember we were in the doggie position with my legs closed and his were spread. He was sort of laying on top of me when he came but just stayed still inside me and I just thought he was taking his time finishing up. He was a bit of a shaker after he came. All of a sudden I feel my stomach start to bloat and filling up with a very warm liquid. As I began to pull off, he grabbed my hips to hold me still and that's when I realized what he was doing. This guy pissed what seemed like a gallon and I felt like I was going to blow up. It started running out all over the bed and when he pulled out, I clenched up and ran to the bathroom but not before there was a mess everywhere. It sounded like a woman pissing for about 2 minutes when I started expelling all his piss from my rectum. I have had other lovers do this but you never forget that first time. Urine is mostly water and ammonia. There is a debate over the health of this practice and it has risks just like semen or any other bodily fluids, but no more or no less. If that is your thing and he is healthy, let it rip.

Problem Remedies

The first problem in receiving anal sex is fitting him inside you. I discussed at length about proper lubrication and repeated entry and removal until your sphincter gets acclimated to his size pain free is a great technique. Another way to help him fit his cock in you is the corkscrew technique. When his head is up against your asshole and it seems to be reluctant to slide in, sometimes the reason is the lube hasn't been spread evenly and there may be just a small area of skin on skin or rubber on skin that has a sticking effect. If he is controlling the entrance, have him rub this cock head up and down your hole a few times and twist his cock a little as he pushes. That corkscrew effect will help it go in smoother. If you are controlling the entrance by sitting on it, you can twist your hips as your sitting down and that will provide the same effect.

Another problem that may be keeping him from getting inside you or even staying inside you is dick angle. Dick angle refers the alignment of the erection in comparison to your asshole. If you are tall with long legs and you are on your knees and a shorter guys is on his knees behind you, his dick angle would be upward and therefore more difficult at the point of entry. A quick fix would be you could spread your legs further apart causing your ass to lower or your lover could get closer to you, get on his feet and off his knees, or he could even put some pillows under his knees to make him higher. If he is much higher than you, then the same entry problems could arise.

Dick angle could also be the problem if he keeps slipping out of you while he is fucking. Let's say you are riding him while he is laying on his back and his cock keeps slipping out of your ass. Excluding the fact you could be bouncing or riding too high every time you come up but your angle might be off. You more often than not are too far up toward his abs and a quick fix would be to scoot back a few inches and straighten your posture. This would improve your angle and allow the cock to have a straighter tunnel causing it to stay inside you throughout the session. Another example of poor dick angle is when in the missionary position and he either has trouble putting it in or keeping it in. To fix that, if you are flexible, you can put your legs back further by putting them over his shoulders or putting pillow underneath your ass if your legs are going to be more spread to the side. Improving this angle will allow the anal sex to be easier and your lover will be more comfortable without worrying he will slip out of your asshole half way through.

There are some other techniques that could help fit that cock inside your ass or at least help you mentally deal with the initial pain, especially if your lover is well hung. Rhythmic breathing can help which is the same concept as a pregnant woman breathing during childbirth. As your lover is pushing that fat dick inside your anus, you want to breathe quick and shallow until you have gotten acclimated to the size and the pain subsides. The stronger the pain the faster the breathing. Another technique is called self-stimulation. This is when you play with yourself by stroking your dong, rubbing your balls, or a combination of both, as your lover is trying to enter you. This physical stimulation can help take your mind off the cock entry pain. Finally, you can spread yourself open with your hands. Many times when your lover is trying to fit himself inside you, he may fumble around and he may not be completely at your asshole entrance. I sometimes, spread my ass cheeks apart for him and guide him to my hole using communication until his cock head is up against the exact spot. This will prevent any unnecessary friction or skin on skin resistance.